Choosing Presence over Presents
It's our first Christmas as newlyweds and one thing is clear.. we are incredibly blessed; with family, health, the opportunity to chase our dreams together. 2016 has been an incredible year filled with DIY's ,wedding planning, travel adventures, and time to figure out what's most important to us.
For those of you who don't know, I've been a fashion blogger for the past 10 years. When you're a fashion blogger you tend to accumulate a lot of stuff! While I love design and the empowering abilities of a great pair of shoes- their comes a point where it can turn to overwhelm. I was able to take a step back and realize I just had TOO much stuff.
I discovered the "Magical Art of Tidying Up" and began a major detox, starting with my closet. Kyle became interested in paring down our possessions too. Together, we started to become more mindful about the purchases we made and the "things" we brought into our home. This will be a topic we'll definitely talk more about on the blog! It's really changed our lives and perspective (especially because we both have backgrounds in retail).
While we realize that we'll probably never be austere minimalists, the idea of living with less stuff in our life is so appealing to us. The principles of focusing on what matters is really what sparked the idea for our blog. Since we first started dating, we've always preferred to gift each other with experiences rather than "things". I think the fact that we share the same values is part of what made us realize how compatible we were as a couple, and now husband and wife.
This has been a big year of expenses for us between our wedding, honeymoon, and saving for a home renovation. After donating and getting rid of so many of our things and on the flip side, getting so many beautiful new pieces from our wedding registry.. it felt really strange to ask for anything for Christmas. Instead of things we suggested gift cards to local restaurants and coffee shops for date nights, airline miles for travel funds, and classes or activities that the two of us can do together.
We've learned that the experiences we share together mean so much more than any physical gift could. So, this year, we've convinced many of our family members to follow suit. This year we're going to play games, watch movies, and unplug. While gift cards may not be as fun to open up, we know how valuable the experiences they bring can be! For the two of us, instead of exchanging gifts, we're putting the money we would have spent towards visiting my little sister at her home in San Francisco next month!
We're trying to keep presence over presents this Christmas. From our family to yours, we wish you a holiday season focused on what brings you the most joy. We're so thankful to be able to celebrate another Christmas together and excited for what the future holds!